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do this: interview your parents

One of my favorite blogs is the lovely A Cup of Jo. I’ve been reading for years and am still in awe of the great posts Joanna creates day after day.

One sweet idea that she wrote about was to interview your parents. Immediately, I was intrigued by the concept. Since I moved to California about two years ago I miss my parents tremendously and the older I get the more curious I am about my parents before they were parents. What were their hopes and dreams? What were their first jobs? I couldn’t wait to dive in and ask them these questions.

Since my parents had tickets to come visit me, I decided to bring her post to life by talking with them about some of these things. I had wanted to ask more specific questions but we ended up chatting a lot about our family history, which was equally fascinating. Today, is an appropriate day to post this because it is also my parents 32nd wedding anniversary. Happy Anniversary you two!

My parents met during their first year of college but they didn’t start dating till a few years later. They both began their studies in the same field β€” law β€” though only my mom got her degree in Poland (my dad changed directions when we got to America.)

One of the first jobs my mom had was working at a bar, the same bar where my dad was a bouncer (so badass I know! He’s actually the one who got her the job.) She collected cash from people entering to use the bathroom. It seems a bit weird, but in Poland, you pay a nominal fee to use the restroom. She told me that job helped her buy a few nicer things she would never have been able to get (one of them was corduroy pants, apparently they were all the rage and my mom desperately wanted a pair.) She also once wanted to be a bookstore owner, which is not surprising considering she loves to read.

My dad wanted to become a prosecutor to “catch all the bad guys.” He loved school and calls himself the “eternal student” but he didn’t get his degree till we moved to America, where he became an RN, total change from the prosecutor plans! If money was no object, they said they’d go on a vacation but then would love to return to Poland to the city where my dad grew up, to open a medical center for sick children.

I also learned the back story of why we ended up coming to America. My grandma who was already here signed us up for the visa lottery and after 10 years on the list, our name was finally drawn. It was written on a total whim and no one really thought we’d get picked. Eventually, my parents made the very brave decision to pack up their 4 children and move to the U.S. Whenever I’m having a tough day or feel uninspired, I think about how hard it must have been for them and remind myself how lucky I am they made that eventful decision. My parents are definitely my role models and I’m so grateful for everything they’ve done for our family. Love you guys!

Thank you Joanna for the wonderful idea. I highly recommend this activity, it’s so fun since now as an adult you can talk with your parents as a friend. It’s amazing the fascinating things you can find out.

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    loftyappetite
    May 2, 2013 at 7:07 pm

    I love this!! And these photos are awesome. Our families are similar and it's always interesting to hear other people's immigration stories! It is incredible to try to comprehend what our parents did. My parents couldn't see each other for a couple years while my dad was in the US trying to sponsor us to come here. I can't imagine making that decision especially with little kids, but we are so lucky to have such amazing parents! πŸ™‚ Happy anniversary to yours!

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    Kasia
    May 3, 2013 at 10:41 pm

    Thanks so much πŸ™‚ I love hearing peoples stories about coming to America, wow how tough that your parents were apart for so long. Just makes you THAT much more grateful for everything they did for us. Our parents rock! πŸ™‚

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